A lot of folk are communicating through Twitter, Facebook and now Pinterest.
These people love to build relationships. They share their photos and ideas about what they enjoy.
The Pinterest fad comes from an elementary school teacher who wanted to “stick pin” up a batch of drawings and such. She and her partners developed a software application and well, the rest is short history!
They have hundreds of thousands of people pinning and repining all sorts of photos and creations! Check out my Pinterest site here. http://pinterest.com/proriskemag
If you are not on Pinterest yet and would like an invite, please reply to this article and post your email. I will make sure you get an invite.
It’s all about communications.
It’s called communication non-the-less! We are filled with opportunities to increase awareness, practice sending effective and receiving good messages.
Major family rifts and misunderstandings can be the result of poor communication. Have you ever found yourself saying:
―But that’s not what I meant!
―You’re not listening to me!
―I heard you say that!
Today, I want to share about personal talking style and then develop ways to avoid mis-communication.
Communication is a process of sending and receiving messages. We all do it. We have been communicating for many years. Why then do we have a need to learn more about communication? Let’s look at what happens in a typical communication.
Whether the message is in print or verbal form, there is typically a sender and a receiver and there is generally some way for the receiver to let the sender know that she/he got the message feedback.
This looks pretty simple until these three factors: environment, self-image and noise are considered.
Environment refers to the person’s point of view made up of what makes that person unique – background, language, culture and experience.
For example with a child talking to an adult, both are or have been children, but they are talking from very different points of view. Each must appreciate the others point of view for understanding to take place. Can you think of other examples?
Self-Image refers to what a person thinks about him/herself. Each message sent includes information about a person’s self-image, which may interfere with the message being sent.
Noise refers to anything that hinders receiving the message. It could be hearing loss, loss of sight, loud sounds or lack of attention by the receiver.
We can see then that sending and receiving messages is not just a simple process. Quality message sending and receiving requires thought and practice.
Important Aspects of Communication
1. Communication is a mutual activity, between and among people.
It involves an exchange of thoughts, feelings and ideas — not just one way telling. The give and take of communication allows us to learn and to understand ourselves and others better.
2. Messages aren’t good and bad but rather efficient or inefficient.
What was the degree of satisfaction of the parties involved? Was the message clearly sent? Was it received in the spirit in which it was sent?
3. Communication takes time.
Often we assume that since an idea is simple and logical to us, others will comprehend it as well. The more involved the exchange, the more emotionally laden, the more time is needed to clarify the messages being exchanged.
4. Communication is a dynamic, ever-changing process.
The circumstances around a verbal exchange can never really be recreated.
5. Most relationships must continue.
Although it is tempting when communication breaks down to walk away, generally it is important to work out a solution to the inefficient communication. Try to find out what went wrong with the communication in the first place; try to study both sides of the communication and check the external elements which may have caused the misunderstanding in the first place.
6. All communication is not appropriate.
There is a delicate balance between freedom of expression and an understanding of and respect for others. There are times when your partner cannot or doesn’t want to listen to your message.
I hope you enjoyed this article about communication. I will share more next time about the different styles – how being passive and aggressive don’t work and how the find the balance – assertiveness to stand your ground and get what you want.
Til then, great job!